One should not pray for patience

 The Issue of Showing Affection to Children

Islam has also permitted showing affection to children. It has a very high status.  

Once the Prophet ﷺ saw a companion kissing a small child. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Until now, Allah has not placed mercy in your heart? Islam does not say that you should not be merciful and affectionate.  

Islam does not say that you should not hug your children at all.  

Islam does not say that you should spend 24 hours in the mosque.  

Islam does not say that you should stay inside the mosque for 24 hours and that your business, which is the biggest problem of all, should be ruined. You are leaving your work and sitting on TV sets. You don't spend time with the children. You don't even kiss them."

"You will go to the market again, you will go to work again, you will live your life again.  

Try to give comfort to your emotions, and when you get off work, instead of wandering here and there to get an amulet, come home and pray.  

Where did you show love to your children? My brothers, set a time in the day that you will definitely play with all the children, meet the kids, and love them. I swear by Allah, doing this with children and giving them time is a great reward and a great deed.  

If you do this, you will see that the reward you get for loving children cannot be found anywhere else, and your love for children will increase even more.

Love for children is something that is asked for. If it does not happen, then it will never happen. You have to do it deliberately.  

If you waste your time on TV sets and on this big life of shopping, then you are a person in whose house children do not get a loving father. They go to sleep and when night comes, they go to sleep while crying.

And poor women are responsible for them. Allah will reward them.  

They leave their children for school and it is also their responsibility to go and pick them up.  

And it is also their responsibility to go shopping and to the market. And the male companion said,  

"We feel like we are working on the shop. We have done a very big job."  

All household problems are piled up on them, and no one cares about this.  

This kind of life is not liked by Islam. And as a result, there is a huge loss in the life of this world."

Bachchon se Pyaar Karne ka Masla

Islam ne bachchon se pyaar karne ki ijazat bhi di hai. Ye ek martaba huzoor ﷺ ne ek chotay se bache se milne ka hosla kiya. Ek sahabi ne farmaaya ke mein ne to ab tak kisi bache ko hosla hi nahi. Huzoor ﷺ ne farmaaya ke Allah Ta'ala ne tere dil mein reham aur karam paida hi nahi kiya? 

Islam aisa nahi kehta ke tum apne bachchon ko bilkul na chumo. 

Islam aisa nahi kehta ke aap 24 ghante masjid mein baithe raho. 

Islam aisa nahi kehta ke 24 ghante masjid ke andar hi raho. Aap ki is kashti ke andar sab se bari bemari yehi hai ke aap apna kaam to barbaad kar dete ho. Aap apna time TV par de dete ho. Bachchon ke paas aap apna time nahi dete

Bache phir market mein jayega, bache phir rozgari par jayega. Bache phir bahar ki zindagi mein apne jazbaat-e-muhabbat ko taskeen dene ki koshish karega. Aur jab out of control ho jata hai to phir taweez lene ke liye idhar se udhar phirta hai aur duaen karwata hai. 

Tum ne apne bachchon ko muhabbat hi kahan di? Mere bhaiyo, din mein aisa time muqarrar karo ke aap sab bachchon ko gale lagaao aur pyaar karo. Un se muhabbat karo. Khuda-e-Pak ki qasam is tarah bachchon ko waqt dena bhi bohat bara ajar o sawab kaam hai. Aur aap aisa karke to dekho, sawab milega. Bachchon ko kahin muhabbat deeni nahi hai aur phir badha hai. 

Mein bachchon se muhabbat mangi hai to phir aisa kabhi nahi hota. Jaisi karni waisi bharni. 

To chote mein jaye is TV ke aur is qasam ki bari life ko shopping par jaye. Jis mein insan apne bachchon ko koi pyaar na de sake. Subha jate hain to bache soye hue hote hain aur jab raat ko aate hain to bache soye hue hote hain. 

Aur bechari auratein Allah Ta'ala in ko jaza-e-khair de. Ke bachchon ko school chorne jane ka kaam bhi in ke zimme hai aur lene jane ka kaam bhi inhi ke zimme hai. 

Aur shopping par jane ka kaam bhi inhi ke zimme hai. Aur ye Hazrat sahab kahan gaye? Dukan par gaye kaam ke. Aisa mehsoos karte hain ke hum ne bohat bara kaam kiya aur aisi hi ghar ki sab masail in ke sar hain. Is ki koi parwah nahi. Is qasam ki masroof zindagi Islam pasand nahi karta. Aur is se duniya ki zindagi mein bhi bohat bara nuqsan jhelte parte hain.