DEEN E ISLAM IS A
COMPLETE DEEN
Whatever is present in Islam is beneficial. Whatever is not in it is harmful and destructive for society.
How many things are running in society today that have no connection with Islam. Their harm is clear upon the world.
Yet people still adopt this curse of dowry out of pride, to save face, or for some other purpose.
Not only this, but the one who does not do these un-Islamic acts is taunted and humiliated. Dowry is also one such custom.
Dowry means: A person tries to provide his daughter with every household item to use.
This responsibility is not on the woman but on the man. Even if he has to take loans, commit robbery, fraud, or violate rights, or beg and be humiliated.
He does all this but definitely gives dowry to his daughter.
This custom was very rare in the subcontinent before Islamic rule ended. Where it existed, it was mostly among rich Hindu families.
Their income used to be from haram wealth. But by copying these rich families, this disease kept spreading among the poor too.
It has now taken the form of cancer. This disease has entered almost every home in the country.
The difference is some people give dowry happily and think it is the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and the way of Islam.
But some people understand it is unlawful, yet still give dowry so they are not humiliated in society.
Whereas real humiliation is that which will be in the Akhirah.
In these posts we will give evidence that this custom is wrong. And we will tell what the harms of dowry are.
Religious and wise people who read these things will themselves avoid this custom and stop others too, InshaAllah.
Many people spend a lot of wealth on weddings and give excessive dowry to daughters. Their argument is:
“Wedding happens once, not again and again, so this spending is right.”
Whereas the reality is that weddings do not come once but again and again. Because a person has many sons and daughters.
He has to marry all of them. So it is known that wedding does not come once but repeatedly.
A person spends the capital saved over a lifetime in one day. Then he starts effort again for the next wedding. This is not right in any way.
Dowry is actually a custom of Hindus which they call 'daan'. They give dowry because in Hindu religion, whether a person is rich or poor,
whether his property is little or in crores and billions, when he dies, the daughter gets no inheritance at all from his property.
So when a Hindu marries his daughter, he cuts his daughter off from the family. He gives her household items to use,
so that the daughter is encouraged.
So the question arises: Why do Muslims adopt this custom? When in their Islam a woman gets inheritance from the property of her father or son etc.
Rather sometimes a woman gets more inheritance than a man. Then why does a Muslim need to adopt the way of Hindus?
The real matter is that among Muslims too, like Hindus, it is custom. Muslims also deprive their daughters of property.
If they do give a share in property, they do not give the full share.
Whereas Allah Ta'ala did not command to give dowry. Rather Allah commanded to give inheritance.
And those who do not give inheritance to children, the Quran has announced the punishment of Jahannam for them.
How sad it is that dowry, which Allah did not command, is being given increasingly.
And inheritance, which He commanded to give, daughters are being deprived of it.
The custom of dowry was very less before. Then slowly it increased in 2 centuries.
And in the present era, dowry has become not just a custom but an excellent business.
Supporters of dowry say that the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave a pillow, waterskin, etc. to his daughter Hazrat Fatimah Raziyallahu anha.
"The things the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave in dowry were valuable for that time. Today is an era of prosperity,
so there is no harm in giving valuable items in dowry to a daughter today."
If the concept of dowry was in Islam, then the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would not have given dowry only to Hazrat Fatimah Ra.
He would have given dowry to all his daughters. Second, he would not have given only these things in dowry.
He was the king of Arabia. He used to give hundreds of camels in sadaqah at one time.
If he Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam wanted, the mountain of Uhud would become gold.
If he Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam prayed, Allah Ta'ala would have granted His Prophet a lot at the time of daughters' dowry.
When despite this he gave only those few simple things and did not give dowry, it is known that dowry has no reality.
The respected wife of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, Hazrat Khadija Ra, had given a necklace to her elder daughter Hazrat Zainab Ra.
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave a waterskin, pillow, etc. to Hazrat Fatimah. Those things cannot become proof of dowry.
As for the necklace of Hazrat Zainab Ra, it was not given by the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam but by Hazrat Khadija.
Second, if someone insists that the necklace was given by the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam himself to his daughter,
this incident is from before he came to the world as a Prophet. And an act done before prophethood cannot become evidence.
Third, that necklace was not given as dowry. Rather it was given as a gift to his daughter at the time of sending her off.
Or understand it like this: That necklace Hazrat Zainab used to wear. Because she was the elder daughter of Hazrat Khadija.
When her departure happened, that necklace was not taken off from Hazrat Zainab.
From that necklace, at most this is proven: If a mother gives something to a girl happily at the time of departure, then it is permissible.
This can be done even today. But dowry is not a gift or present. Rather it is something else.
Not giving dowry does not mean that a man should take from his daughter even those things which she used to use at home.
Like clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. If Hazrat Zainab Ra used to wear that necklace, then taking it off from her was not proper. So she took it with her.
As for the dowry of Hazrat Fatimah, first, it was not dowry. Because dowry is not the name of two or three things.
Okay, if we accept that it was dowry. If you Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave these things as dowry,
then Muslims should act on the Sunnah of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and give only those things which the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave to his beloved daughter.
If dowry was to be given, he Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would have given much more. If he Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave only these things,
it is known that only these things should be given in dowry.
The reality is that it was not dowry. Rather that luggage was made by selling the armor of Hazrat Ali Ra.
Which Hazrat Ali Ra had given to Hazrat Fatimah Ra in Haq Mehr.
Even today, if a person takes the amount of his daughter's Haq Mehr in advance and arranges his daughter's necessities with it,
and sends those things with his daughter at the time of departure, then there is no harm in it. Rather this will be acting on the Sunnah of the Prophet.
If a person is not ready to accept that the luggage was made by selling the armor given in Mehr of Hazrat Fatimah Ra,
Then we will say to him: Even if that luggage was given by the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam himself,
still it was not dowry. Rather it was help from the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam to Hazrat Ali Ra.
Because Hazrat Ali Ra had neither a house nor any other means to live life. Hazrat Ali Ra was under the guardianship of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
And the father of Hazrat Ali Ra had passed away. So the supervision and upbringing of Hazrat Ali Ra was done by the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam himself.
So he sent his daughter with a few necessary things.
The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave these things to Hazrat Ali Ra not as dowry but as help in the capacity of a guardian.
So even today if a person is raising someone, then gives his daughter's relationship to him,
then whatever he gives to his girl at the time of departure in the capacity of a guardian will be correct and according to Sunnah.
The summary is: Whatever the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave to Hazrat Fatimah Ra was not dowry.
And it cannot become proof of dowry for the Ummah. So do not commit the crime of linking this dirty custom with the Sunnah of the Prophet.
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